I just realized that next week will be 4 years since my husband graduated boot camp. It's hard to wrap my brain around, it's been 4 years already! We were just dating back then, he left for boot camp 2 months after we started dating. His time in boot camp made our entire relationship, I missed his one and only phone call and I got on average one letter a week (I wrote 64 letters). I was busy the entire time working 2 full time jobs to support myself (often working 80 or 90 hours a week, and going weeks without a day off), and I was coping with being a military girlfriend. I "met" one of my best friends (online, of course! I still haven't met her but I love her!) on MySpace, I had joined a group for military SOs and posted about missing my boyfriend. I was ATTACKED! My best friend was the only one to help me out, because her husband was going through boot camp at the same time mine was. Those other women totally colored my view of military wives for life, I was attacked, not supported, all because I missed him while he was in boot camp. How dare I?! I decided from that point on that I would NEVER turn into one of those wives, and I like to think I haven't.
Anyway, we got married later that year after he volunteered for his first deployment. He left a few months after we got married, and keep in mind we still weren't living together. We were in separate states for the first year and a half of our relationship, and we knew that if we could do that, we could do anything as long as we were together. Looking back on 2008, we've been through so much more since then! We're on our 3rd deployment now, he's still volunteering for deployments, still working to be the best he can be. And I'm still working to be the best support system for other military SOs that I can be, so that no one has to endure that kind of negativity I encountered.
My whole point lol this life is possible! It's possible to be happy being a military wife, deployments are not the end of the world. It's possible to have your own identity (I'm studying to be a paralegal) and it's possible for your family to have a life outside of the military. Don't be like those other wives, attacking others for the smallest thing, be the support system you would want to have. We were all new at one point, we were all a girlfriend at one point, we were all just starting to learn about the military. Be thankful for what you have and what you're given, remember things could always be worse so be happy with what you have. Thank you, that is all lol
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